.. friendship or their feelings for each other, closeness exists-unspoken but strong. (Inman, 107) These two men are playing pool and talking about the women in their lives. One discloses some of his emotions about his wife who has left him and the other talks about an amazing sexual experience that he has had with a woman who he is too scared to admit he believes is his soul mate. These men are close friends but closeness in doing as Inman calls it is not the only indicator of that.
In another scene, Savon and Darius are having a few beers in a bar. The conversation this time begins again with a sexual connotation. Darius has just found out that Nina is going to New York to see if she still loves her ex-boyfriend. Darius is really trying to stoke his own ego because he is talking about the fact that if Ole boy was doing his job in the first place why [is he] there. The tone of the conversation is a little more bitter than it was the first time as Darius says things like I put it on HER and I steal, I dont get stole on. Then there is a turning point in the tone of the conversation when he puts his emotions out there and he says to Savon These women are killing me slowly.
It wouldnt be so bad if I didnt think she is the one. Savon nearly chokes when he says that. Savon remembers an earlier comment about Darius and Nina just kickin it, and what asked happened to that. There is an implied understanding that Savon realizes there is more to the relationship than what Darius actually comes out and says. Another characteristic that Inman believes characterizes mens friendships is just that implied understanding that Savon and Darius have. There is no need to belabor the point when you know that there is more to the subject. He also things that the openness and trust [in mens friendships] establish an environment that supports individual growth. Because Savon did not make fun of Darius about being open emotionally to this woman a link in their friendship was gained. They are able to help each other learn about their individual selves.
One more of Inmans characteristics is in this scene. Once Darius realizes that Savon is about to choke because he called Nina THE ONE, Darius flips in to joke mode and was saying that he was just kidding and goes back to the hard role. So Savon, not really believing that he was joking says to Darius Let me see ya wallet, because it must be BAD MUTHA FUCKER on it. Inman says phrases, jokes and gestures that carry subtle meanings of acceptance and understanding and significant expressions of affection. Savon uses this comment to make Darius think he believes him and to help stroke his ego. Inman would say that comment has value for the strength of their friendship.
It is in some ways an affirmation of the relationship. I think it is important to note that after some dramatic scene with Nina and Darius, the following scene is with Darius and Savon discussing what has happened. First, the scene when they are playing pool after he first has sex with Nina and then this scene. I think the filmmakers do that partially to emphasize the importance of these male friendships. Male/Female Relationship Darius and Nina Apparently the two have just got finished having sex because he has on a towel and she is wrapped in a blanket laying on the couch. Nina begins by telling him that she is going to NY for a few weeks to do some job hunting and to handle some unfinished business.
(Darius translates-some dude!) She tells him that she used to be in a relationship and hasnt seen her ex in a while. She tells him they used to be close and tells him she is only telling him because she cares about him and isnt trying to play him. She expects him to be upset, but he is very cool and nonchalant about the whole situation. Darius plays the cool role, Do what you have to do I dont have any rings on your finger WE are just kickin it right We just friends right? When he is with Nina in this scene there is very little response on his part. He may say all of 6 statements total in response to the whole lay out of the situation that Nina has done. She does a lot of explaining and justifying and he just listens and responds back with short phrases like We are just friends right? The communitive style in this scene really talks about difference between between men and women and what is called rapport v.
report talk. Nina goes into lengthy detail about the whole situation. She explains everything to him and he gives her a short answer. Nina engages in what is called rapport talk. This type of talk works to explain all the details of a situation as not to confuse anything and make sure that all the information is communicated. Darius displays report talk.
This is a very common in masculine speech and is a short version where only the bare minimums are said about a given subject. Marvin and Nina When Nina goes to New York to handle some unfinished business, part of that business is Marvin. He is her ex and she is trying to decide what to do about her feelings for him so she comes up here to stay with him. Scene opens up Marvin is home (apparently from work) in the kitchen looking for some Toasted Oats when Nina comes in after job hunting. The first thing he does is fuss about the cereal and how she finished the box this morning before she left. The two have both had hard days and where Nina wants him to ask her about her day and at least say hello, Marvin begins their conversation by arguing.
This one argument builds onto another one that has been on going between the two. Marvin doesnt want Nina to have to keep looking for a job, as he is trying to explain that to her, she keeps finishing out his sentences. That is beginning to annoy him and they get down to the real problem when Nina saysI dont even know why Im here? And the only thing still left between her and him is all these years. Marvin doesnt refute it, he just says Im going out for some muther*censored*in toasted oats and mumbles some more stuff on the way out of the house. The next morning, Nina is gone without any words of goodbye, but the engagement ring that Marvin had given her was left on his pinky when he woke up to an empty bed. In this scene there are a few places where the communication styles were conflicting.
Nina wanted Marvin to be open and welcoming when she came home from work. He was abrasive and demanding, which was not what she wanted at that moment. Also, he was telling her what to do. He wanted her to sit around at home and not work and it was no conducive to her plans. My analysis of these Female/Male relationships is that there is so many problems in them because the ways of communicating are conflicting. I think that in part the break down can also be because people are not willing to try to make the individual situations work.